Those High Pedestals: Why We Idolise Others—and How to Reclaim Ourselves

We are more connected than ever, yet loneliness continues to rise. In this deeply honest conversation, Keith Spurgin shares why visibility is not the same as being known, how disconnection silently shapes our identity, and what it takes to move relationships from lifeless to vibrant.Keith opens up about his own journey from internal disconnection to meaningful connection, revealing the subtle ways we tolerate relational emptiness while our souls quietly starve. Together, we explore leadership, vulnerability, emotional health, and why relational fitness matters just as much as physical fitness.This episode is an invitation to slow down, tell the truth, and take the small courageous steps that lead to genuine connection.Chapters00:00 Introduction to Connection and Disconnection04:24 Understanding the Nature of Disconnection09:18 The Illusion of Digital Connection11:56 The Importance of Self-Leadership16:23 Signs of a Dying Relationship21:31 Tolerating Toxic Behaviors26:42 Personal Journey of Disconnection33:16 The Impact of Relational Health38:12 Creating Authentic Connections in Families and Churches42:40 Practical Steps to Build Connections45:59 Living a Truly Connected LifeEpisode TakeawaysWe are more technologically connected than ever, yet more relationally disconnectedReal relationships require risk, honesty, and vulnerabilityPeople admire accomplishments but connect through shared strugglesTolerating emotional neglect quietly erodes the soulPain often becomes the doorway to transformationThe quality of life is directly tied to the quality of relationshipsForgiveness is essential for healing and reconnectionAuthentic leadership creates space for authentic relationshipsAbout Keith SpurginKeith Spurgin is an author, international speaker, leadership coach, and President of Growth Resourcing Group, an organisation dedicated to helping leaders, pastors, and business owners lead with clarity, courage, and connection.He is the founder of New Hope Church in Wylie, Texas, and the author of Unknown: Finding Connection in a Disconnected World. Keith is passionate about long term relationship building, transformational leadership, and helping people experience meaningful connection in every area of life.Website: https://keithspurgin.netYour transformation begins the moment you decide to look within.Let this book walk with you.👇 Get your copy:US/Intl: https://amzn.to/3Kk5wh4EU: https://amzn.to/48sFnG6Listen on your favourite podcast platform: ⁠https://lnkfi.re/mirrortalk⁠Don't forget to subscribe, rate, share, and comment. Thank you!CONFESSIONS is now available: https://mirrortalkpodcast.com/confessions-book/ Thank you for joining me on this MIRROR TALK podcast journey. Please subscribe to any platform and remember to leave a review and rating.Stay connected: https://linktr.ee/mirrortalkpodcast More inspiring episodes and show notes are here: https://mirrortalkpodcast.com/podcast-episodes/ Your opinions, thoughts, suggestions, and comments are important to us. Please share them here: https://mirrortalkpodcast.com/your-opinion-matters/ Could you support us by becoming a Patreon? Please consider subscribing to one or more of our offerings at http://patreon.com/MirrorTalk All proceeds will help enhance the quality of our work and outreach, enabling us to serve you better.We use and trust these podcasting tools, software, and gear. We’ve partnered with amazing platforms to give our Mirror Talk community exclusive deals and discounts: https://mirrortalkpodcast.com/best-podcasting-tools/